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lacedomme:

misslilystarlight:

I’ve been asked why I’m so picky about subs.

It’s because I have had the awful luck to have subs who all of a sudden leave me. Who stop all communication and leave me wondering why. Wondering what I fucked up. I understand we all have lives to attend to, but please, don’t disappear on me.

This happened to me too. Big no no.

If a submissive just up and leaves than that person was never submissive and he/she didnt deserve your time. It really makes me sad when I hear about these kind of things. I am so lucky to have my Mistress Chaille and Im glad she has given me the chance to earn her time. Thanks Mistress!

lacedomme
I want you and I don’t want to be a luxury. I want you to need me. I want you to not be able to concentrate because you’re thinking about me. I want you to reach for your phone because you thought of something you have to share with me. I want you to not even be able to breathe at the thought of never seeing me again, because that’s how I feel about you.

Shannon Stacey, All He Ever Needed (via cybergirlfriend)

chrissythesissy

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lacedomme:

riaandpally:

girlsrule-subsdrool:

and then turns the other cheek so that I can slap him again if it would make me happy.

[gonna go a little Bible nerd here, but i think you’ll like it]
So, one of the fun things about that symbol of turning the other cheek is one of forcing the oppressor to respect you. Slaps of the demeaning sort that Jesus was referring to were always backhanded, because an open slap is challenging someone as more or less of an equal, and it was always with the left hand because we’re talking about Romans slapping Jews and the Romans looked on Jews as filth and so the left hand was used because that’s generally the “filthy” hand while the right hand was generally the “clean” hand. So in turning the other cheek, you make it impossible for them to slap you without either actually committing a crime by breaking something (teeth, nose) or changing slap either to a right-handed backhand or to a left-handed forehand. In case you haven’t been paying attention, this forces you to be at least one step closer to the oppressor, essentially forcing them to think of you as more than garbage. 
Now, in a D/s situation we don’t get to assume the starting slap, so this makes it even richer. When your sub “turn[s] the other cheek,” they’re offering for you to express multiple viewpoints. For subs into humiliation, you can make both with the left - “no matter how close to Me you get, you’re still dirt.” Alternatively, you could refuse to use the right hand when slapping, making a point that this is not a relationship between equals, and so on. (Refusing to slap after the other cheek is turned would pretty much just be sticking with your initial statement. Methinks a particularly devoted sub would understand and present the first cheek again.)

Hm that was very interesting

lacedomme:

riaandpally:

girlsrule-subsdrool:

and then turns the other cheek so that I can slap him again if it would make me happy.

[gonna go a little Bible nerd here, but i think you’ll like it]

So, one of the fun things about that symbol of turning the other cheek is one of forcing the oppressor to respect you. Slaps of the demeaning sort that Jesus was referring to were always backhanded, because an open slap is challenging someone as more or less of an equal, and it was always with the left hand because we’re talking about Romans slapping Jews and the Romans looked on Jews as filth and so the left hand was used because that’s generally the “filthy” hand while the right hand was generally the “clean” hand. So in turning the other cheek, you make it impossible for them to slap you without either actually committing a crime by breaking something (teeth, nose) or changing slap either to a right-handed backhand or to a left-handed forehand. In case you haven’t been paying attention, this forces you to be at least one step closer to the oppressor, essentially forcing them to think of you as more than garbage. 

Now, in a D/s situation we don’t get to assume the starting slap, so this makes it even richer. When your sub “turn[s] the other cheek,” they’re offering for you to express multiple viewpoints. For subs into humiliation, you can make both with the left - “no matter how close to Me you get, you’re still dirt.” Alternatively, you could refuse to use the right hand when slapping, making a point that this is not a relationship between equals, and so on. (Refusing to slap after the other cheek is turned would pretty much just be sticking with your initial statement. Methinks a particularly devoted sub would understand and present the first cheek again.)

Hm that was very interesting